Okay, so today is TANABATA Festival. Also known as Qixi in Chinese and the Weaver Festival in English.
Basically, it comes from a legend that is shared culture of China, Korea, Japan, and Vietnam concerning the Weaving Maiden Star (Vega) and the Cowheard Star (Altair). Because the legend has spread widely throughout China and neighboring countries that have a shared Sino-Asian culture, there are so many variations that it is tough to tell you exactly which one is best known. It is said that the celestial bodies are the reincarnation of two star-crossed lovers called Tanabata (or Orihime (Weaving Princess)) and Mikeran (or Hikoboshi (Cowheard)) and that they can meet once a year on 7/7 by the old Japanese lunar calendar. Now that we use the Gregorian calendar throughout the world, 7/7 is no longer the historical Tanabata Festival day. That said, most people still consider either 7/7 or 8/7 Tanabata in Japan, although it has been relegated to minor importance throughout much of the country (save perhaps Sendai and parts of Hokkaido). Little children pray for help with handwriting, arts and crafts skill, and other gains in artistic talent on this day. This Tanabata, I'm asking for help with my kanji skill. I need to memorize how to write a few hundred more and the pronunciations for all of them. Let's hope that tonight is a clear sky so Vega and Altair can meet. If it is cloudy, it is said that the rain that falls is Tanabata crying because she cannot meet with her husband, Mikeran.
My aunt and uncle are watching ABC's runaway hit THE BACHELORETTE. I didn't even realize the show was still running after all these seasons. You know the one: the show of two incarnations, one featuring a shallow man choosing among 20-odd bimbos for a prospective wife or an equally shallow woman picking between 20-odd boneheads for a prospective husband. Ugh. The people are shallow, the situations contrived, and the sheer amount of bad interpersonal skills is at once maddening and kind of frightening.
I mean, they make assumptions, tell other people what they should feel, blame their feelings on one another rather than taking responsibility for how they feel, take everything personally, and gossip about themselves and others. And if that weren't bad enough, they're adding to the rich culture we have going that this kind of train-wreck 'relationship television' represents the ideal.
This is what we SHOULD feel like when we're in love. This is what we SHOULD do when we love someone. I don't profess for a moment to know a thing about what you as an individual SHOULD feel or do, but this is likely not it in 99.99999999% of cases. America, please turn the channel with some remotely redeeming quality.
I don't care what you watch, really. You can watch a soap opera for all I care. Just remember that what you see on TV is FICTION. It IS NOT REAL. You DO NOT HAVE TO ACT LIKE THIS. And you SHOULD NOT act like these people or expect reality to turn out like these programmes. No, most people do NOT simultaneously date and lead on 20 individuals when searching for a mate. You don't typically date for one month and travel the world with just enough time to bring that special someone home to meet mom and dad just before proposing or hoping to be proposed to. Falling in love does NOT mean forcing the other person to feel the same way you do, guilting your partner into feeling or being a certain way, or coercing her/him into anything.
Why is this show still on television? Why are people watching it? It makes me a little nuts.
Sorry to rant, but I suppose if there were a time and place, this blog is definitely it.
Originally posted on shinjitsunouta.vox.com